Same-sex environments

[Realist]

Having spent some years in private boy's schools and in the military, where the majority of my cohorts were all male, I became enamored with and had differing degrees of physical relationships with a few other males. The first time I ever felt that I was in love, was with another boy at the age of 14, while attending a private military school. Later, while In serving for 7 years in 2 different military services, I had romantic LTR relationships...one in each branch.

Other than with one bisexual female lover, who had attended an all-female nursing school, I have not discussed their sexual interactions with other ladies. I was wondering how many ladies, here, developed physical/emotional relationships and maybe even love, under those, or similar circumstances?

I would also like to hear from any guys who experienced similar same-sex events.

[jamieknyc]

Psychologists call this sort of thing 'situational bisexuality,' meaning people who engage in same-sex behavior because they are in a same-sex environment and don't have access to the opposite sex. It seems most such people change to heterosexual behavior when they leave the same-sex environment.

[Lynne_in_UK]

From a website dealing with suppressed heterosexuality in the Muslim world:

Islam has the effect of denying Muslim boys and girls the opportunity to develop their sexuality in a normal, wholesome fashion. The public mixing of sexes is prohibited by Islam although it may be tolerated by the secular governments of most Muslim nations. Denied the opportunity to have normal heterosexual experiences during adolescence ... it is no wonder that Muslims are much more likely than infidels to find romance and sexual gratification in homosexual relationships....

"Ibrahim bin Abdullah bin Ghaith, the head of the religious police (the Committee for the Prevention of Vice and the Promotion of Virtue) acknowledged, in unusually tempered language, that there are gay Saudis, while also speaking of the need "to educate the young" about this "vice". But he denied media reports that gay and lesbian relationships were the norm in the strictly segregated schools and colleges, that homosexuality "is spreading".

In an unprecedented two-page special investigation, the daily newspaper Okaz said lesbianism was "endemic" among schoolgirls. ... The article told of lesbian sex in school lavatories, girls stigmatised after refusing the advances of their fellow students, and teachers complaining that none of the girls were willing to change their behaviour.

Mr Ghaith dismissed a suggestion that he should send his "enforcers" to investigate. Armed with sticks, they routinely hunt down men and women in public they suspect may not be directly related. "This perversion is found in all countries," he told Okaz. "The number [of homosexuals] here is small ..." That assessment is contradicted by teachers and students who say that, in the absence of other outlets, a "gay" subculture has inevitably flourished among youth.

http://www.islam-watch.org/Others/Islamic-sexual-perversion.htm

[Realist]

I think that any time you put many virile people of the same sex in a atmosphere where access to the opposite sex, you are going to have those who experience such a need for physical interaction, that they will act out with who ever's available. As in the post above, they may, or may not continue the same actions once they get out into "the world".

However, I was predisposed to be attracted to both sexes prior to being put in these all-male situations, and have continued to be attracted to certain males, as well as females all my life.

MY GF, the bisexual nurse, felt the same and continued to be drawn to both sexes all her life. My present GF has only had a couple of same-sex relationships, but continues to be attracted to other ladies.

I have discussed this with other men over the years and some, in fact, never did feel the desire to be with the same gender again, after leaving a gender-sequestered environment. I wondered if the percentage of women who felt this way was about equal?

No response from the ladies?