Am I bisexual? I am confused

[olesp]

Hi, I got to this forum looking for answers to my thoughts and feelings. I am a 28 years old male, I am going to get married next october with my girlfriend, and she is what I love the most in this world.
Since a few months ago, I feel really excited about the idea of sucking a cock while I am having sex with my gf. I have never really had a gay relationship, actually I had never found it as something sexy.
I thought it would come out of my mind, but it doesn't, so I told my girlfriend and since she is a little bi-curious, she understands me perfectly and thinks that there nothing wrong about it.
We have now been talking about trying to meet somebody or other couple, so I can really enjoy other cock, but I am not sure. I don't want to loose her, and I don't know if this could be bad for our relationship, but as days go by, the idea of sucking a cock is more exciting to me.
What do you think? Am I simply confused and should let it go, or what is happening to me has happened to any of you before?

Thanks in advance.

Sorry for the length of the post and for my English, but English is my second language.
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[Flounder1967]

olesp,
I'm glad that you and finence have at least have opened the door with communication. now ths only thing only things you need now id communication. If you have a fear tell her and talk to her. It all involes trust, communcation with each other, and ground rules. always et each other know what your thinking and feeling.

Good Luck and hope the both of you get plenty of cock and pussy.

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[nick3635]

Being with another guy was something I never thought about that much before either, up until about 2 months ago. I was with a couple, and to make a long (but extremely erotic) story short, we ended up sucking each others cocks. I very much liked doing it. I was surprised how quickly it happened and how quickly I got into it.
Since that has happened, I still have no desire to fuck another guy or be with a guy one one or in any type of relationship. However, I do want to want to suck cock again. I have been looking for a nice couple to explore things with and hopefully that will happen soon. If it doesn't then I had the experience, enjoyed it and will move on one way or the other.
If your thinking about it that much, I think you need to move forward with experiencing it. I do not think it will hurt your relationship at all if you continue to be open and pursue any opportunities with your g/f and don't go behind her back. Your being open and honest, she open to it so I would continue on or you will always all your life about it. Does that make me bi ? I honestly couldn’t even begin to tell you. I don’t know where the definition of bi starts and personally, if everyone involved agrees, enjoys it, and is not impacting any other lives, then I don’t care. Go have fun with your g/f, I would personally love to find someone that open.

[bityme]

I don't think you can call yourself bi yet. You are curious and you are very lucky that your gf is willing to explore before marriage. Try it, you might like it. But then again you might not. In either case, if there is a possibility that it could affect your relationship with your gf, it is better to learn that before the wedding. It is really best to establish your need/desires now, before you enter into a life-long commitment you might not be able to keep.
My first wife and I were swingers. She broke me in with a strap-on and I really enjoyed it. Finally, she got me to suck another man and I found that I liked that too. Unfortunately, after that one time, she got cancer and passed away. I supressed my desires, met another lady several years later and felt I found my soul mate. About 15 yrs into the 2nd marriage (3 years ago) I had some MM oppertunities and I succumbed to the temptation. I sucked, fucked and got fucked (the real thing is better). I'm hooked, I know I will continue when I have the chance, but I also know that if she finds out the marriage is over and it will cost me a bundle. In other words, find out now, before you take the plungs.

[rupertbare]

Hi, you REALLY need to sort this out before you marry. You say your girlfriend is bi-curious herself - so TALK about it all together and in depth. Maybe get some porn - bi/gay - and watch it together. Make sure NEITHER of you are scared or horrified by it. THEN maybe try and find another couple where one or both partners are bi.

If your girlfriend has ANY doubts regarding this type of sexual behaviour you have a LOT of work to do. It may even mean postponing the wedding or even breaking up. Be PREPARED for that.

Otherwise - good luck!! Love between sould mates is hard to find!!

Rupe, UK :)

[funofit]

Honestly, it is just a label to a great extent. Yes, you are interested in sucking a cock and that means that you have some bisexual tendencies which many, if not most men have from time to time. I have never been too into sucking dick, but I like nothing better than a man sucking me off, as a man that is really into it is just so good at it. I have sucked cock, don't get me wrong, but if either makes me "bisexual" it does not matter to me. Yes I prefer having a man suck me to a woman sucking me, but I prefer a woman squatting down and riding me, to a man. So, I am bisexual and how does that make me any different? I don't know...

[moonlitwish]

If you and your gf are open to other sexual experiences, go for it! Suck all the cock you can get your mouth on. My husband is straight so he doesn't even want to be in the same room with another cock, but when we have ffm 3 some it improves our sex lives. We both enjoy being with other women and enjoy seeing each other with other women. Definitely find out how you and your gf are going to handle this before you get married-plus make sure you communicate the expectations of these type of behaviors after you get married. Some people are all about exploring until there is a ring on the finger, and after that it's all hands off. Make sure both of your intentions are clear on this before hand so no one gets hurt.
Best of Luck!