Women Dating Bisexual Men

[fred fencesitter]

What types of women are generally more open to dating bi men? How can a bi man make a woman feel more comfortable with his sexuality?

[jem_is_bi]

What types of women are generally more open to dating bi men? How can a bi man make a woman feel more comfortable with his sexuality?

I do not know the answer to the first question.
The answer to the second question is: become heterosexual.

[tarzanthejungle]

Your best bet is to be yourself, and only come out to people you trust. If you are attracted to someone, spend some time with that person, and then leave enough clues to be found so that the topic comes up before you express any sexual interests. Then if the topic does not come up, well, look for an opportunity to bring it up, whether it's a conversation about same sex marriage or a same sex kiss on a TV show, or something that leads to the inevitable question: is bisexual ok? then: are you turned on by bisexual scenes? then: are you open to non-monogamous exporation (with me)?

Don't waste your time if she does not express interests in at least watching you with another guy; if it's not a turn-on, then it's a turn off, trust me.

-Woody

[veganbigmac]

Some women simply won't be made more comfortable about your bisexuality no matter what you do, and that's cool. Consider this, if you're open and honest you won't have to deal with "making women more comfortable with your sexuality" because those who won't be comfortable with it will know right off the bat where you stand, which will mean you won't waste time trying to change their views, but will instead be able to focus on finding the women who will accept you for who you are.

Trust me, you can waste a lot of time trying to make a relationship work, but in the end, each person makes their own decisions and actions, and you can only influence the decisions and actions of others in a tangential fashion, if at all.

[TwylaTwobits]

To be honest I think any woman has the capacity to love any man be they bisexual or not. I met my current partner and was attracted to him based on the Wiccan power I felt and the wicked personality he displayed. We were just friends for a very long time and long before we actually became involved he sent me to this site. That's how he came out to me as bisexual. I stayed, because I was getting to know the man not his sexual preferences and I obviously liked what I found. After I decided to divorce my husband, I was no longer in the "taken" category and found he was interested in me. As we explored our interests in each other love grew and deepened and now I get on a plane on June 20th to go hold him the way I have longed to for ages.

Does that make me a special kind of woman??? No it simply makes me a woman who knows a good man when she finds one.

So chin up, you'll find someone and when you do it won't matter if you are bi, gay, transgendered or straight. She (or he) will love you for who you are, not what you are.

[Fire Lotus]

Don't waste your time if she does not express interests in at least watching you with another guy; if it's not a turn-on, then it's a turn off, trust me.

-Woody

A woman doesn't have to be turned on by two men together to be accepting of her male partner's bisexuality. What it does take is an open mind and being secure with herself. Along side of that, he needs to be up front and honest.

It's true, a lot of women may not be cool with it. But I know/have several women friends with bi male partners who are. So, they are out there.

[Long Duck Dong]

its not generally bisexuality that people have the issue with.... its the attitude, and the opinion of the people.....

I am bisexual.... a statement.... that may make a lady look at me a look .... but she is listening to hear what I say about my bisexual desires and needs, and my consideration of her desires and needs.....

if I was to say, I love you but I need to suck a cock... and unless I am doing that... our relationship is in trouble..... then seriously.... you have not talked with her.... you have given her a ultimatum... its my way and the BI way....

if you want ANYBODY to become more comfortable with your bisexuality, you need to let them become comfortable and able to trust you, support you, care about you and love and and know that you are doing the same with them..... and develop that trust and respect.....

as I am quick to say to any person.... if your need for sex outweighs the need to have respect and love and honesty for your partner.... don't get in a relationship.... you risk hurting a person for trusting you to be honest with them.......

being honest about your desires and needs can be a risk.... its a tough call.... but so is allowing your partner to become comfortable with you....telling them that your ass needs to be fucked fully and deeply... is easier than seeing you getting your ass fucked fully and deepily....and like learning to swin in the deep end of the pool.... there are times that we need to walk with our partners in the paddling pool and then the shallow end, until they are able to handle the deep end, or choose the depth that is safe for them...... or you may just get lucky and find a partner that says, fuck the paddling pool, lets just go for the 10 metre diving board

[Realist]

Great advice, from each of you!

It seems to me that almost everyone on this thread is more honest, intelligent and less impulsive than I have been most of my life. After being married 3 times, I finally realized that you can't hide your true self and expect to be happy, or make anyone else happy. Oh, how I wish I'd learned these lessons earlier! This site has helped me so much with advice and the demand to be honest with myself/others. Even at my age, I have benefited from good guidance. I now have a magnificent lover, who is also bi. I actually met her here; she has proven that I could have been accepted and loved even though I was bisexual. All I had to do was be honest and up front with my intentions and reveal my heart. I am so pleased with finding this site last year and my life has improved because of it!

[justbime]

being honest at the start of a relationship, not first date, is fair to everyone involved.

[TheKnaveOfHearts]

Great advice, from each of you!

It seems to me that almost everyone on this thread is more honest, intelligent and less impulsive than I have been most of my life. After being married 3 times, I finally realized that you can't hide your true self and expect to be happy, or make anyone else happy. Oh, how I wish I'd learned these lessons earlier! This site has helped me so much with advice and the demand to be honest with myself/others. Even at my age, I have benefited from good guidance. I now have a magnificent lover, who is also bi. I actually met her here; she has proven that I could have been accepted and loved even though I was bisexual. All I had to do was be honest and up front with my intentions and reveal my heart. I am so pleased with finding this site last year and my life has improved because of it!

Thanks for sharing your experience Realist. As a bisexual man, my biggest fear is that I'll never find true happiness with a woman without having to give up something important to me (be it a facet of my sexuality or something else). But stories like yours give me hope. So once again, thanks.

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[jem_is_bi]

being honest at the start of a relationship, not first date, is fair to everyone involved.

That way you get to have some fun before getting dumped and you do not feel so bad because it is before you cause some real hurt.

[PolyLoveTriad]

What types of women are generally more open to dating bi men? How can a bi man make a woman feel more comfortable with his sexuality?

I dont know that there is any one type of woman who is more open to her man being bi or not. Im bi, my husband is bi, but I dont think my being bi had anything to do with being more accepting of him being bi. I think anyone, not just a woman, has to be secure with themselves first, and then secure that the person they are with loves them so there is no jealousy. A jealous person no matter what sex is going to be more insecure with their other half being bi than being straight.

On the second part, I think the best way to make them feel comfortable with it is to be completely honest from the get go. This is who I am, Im bi, it doesnt mean I cheat, it doesnt mean I desire you less. Be open, share your thoughts and desires. Either they will accept you for who you are or they wont. Its been my experience that some people will move on and then the right one will stay, accept and love the person you are.

Well thats my deep thought for the day :)

[swag85]

my most recent female ex, was ok with it, in every level. she loved me for me, and the relationship never had any problems on that note.

the one before that however started on lies, i was upfront, and honest from the very begining. she told me she was bi as well.so she didn't care.....well 6 months down the road, a situation came up and one of my friends wanted to join us, so we went to ask her if she was into it. that ended in a huge fight, and her telling me she would never do that cuz she wasnt bi, and she had a lingering problem that i was, just never said anything. needless to say, that relationship lasted about 3 seconds after that.

i think its about honesty, being true to yourself, and just putting what you want out of the relationship, on the table! and dont hide who you are, or what you want. just so a person will like you. cuz eventually it all comes out in the wash!!
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[bettybob]

When Betty and I got together I told her about my bisexuality after our second night of fantastic sex. She said "it takes a real man to suck cock", then showed me her collection of Gay Porn. It can happen! I'm glad it did.

Being honest and unashamed about who you are is key.

[ad3463]

I approach dating from a slightly different angle than most people that I know.. I'm 52 and picky, picky, picky. I'm not lonely, don't need someone to “complete” me and it doesn't bother me to not date for long periods of time. In other words, I fixed the part where I desperately needed to find someone rather than desperately finding someone.

I don't care if a woman is bi, just that she is sexually liberated and has the capacity to love the part of me that is - along with all the other parts of me. It's been my experience that such women are very rare indeed and I've adjusted my expectations accordingly.

I know, I'm different, but I find it very enjoyable to slowly let a woman know that I'd enjoy sex with either, mostly with both. Maybe there's a bit of mental exhibitionist in me. Early on in a relationship I really have nothing to loose and everything to gain. There is always one single moment when they realize what I mean or what I'm talking about. Several couldn't get away fast enough and that's a good thing. One was so excited when she put two and two together that we had sex five times that day while she talked about it non-stop. It's a shame she had some other things that just wouldn't work for me. There were a couple who really considered if it might work for them. I could see it in their eyes as they were mentally trying it on for size.

I think us bi guys tend to have a little guilt and bit of self loathing and it's evident when we try to communicate our sexuality to a prospective partner. I went on a first date with a woman who told me that, for her, sex was missionary, at night, lights off, pajamas on and not every day, not even every week. She added that she saw me looking at her butt and she hated to have her butt touched, by anyone, in any way. She didn't have to work up the courage to say it, wasn't ashamed of it, not even a twinge of guilt. It's just who she is. She'll find someone who loves that about her,. At this point in my life I have no trouble getting to know a woman a bit and then telling her that I like to sail in the summer, hate sports, work too much, love expensive coffee and would like to have sex with a guy once in a while. I always hope she'll respond with something for me to mentally try on for size.

[shyer]

I honestly think it would be great to meet a female who likes me sucking cock,plus doing lots of oral pleasing her as well.But it's just finding a female who likes bi men.

[Beefeater]

The easy answer to the question would be sell a T-shirt for women that says "I (heart) bi guys!" Problem solved! lol

[BorderCpl]

Grin - I've always said that bisexuals need a secret handshake to identify themselves :) I don't know that there is a "type" of woman into bi guys any more than we can typify WHO a bi guy is? I love bi and gay men...not so much straight guys. I tend to be a bit more aggressive in bed and in pursuing my own desires than most women. I don't care what others think about me or my lifestyle. Perhaps therein lies the entire question: if society has more stringent rules on masculinity, perhaps the women who could care less what society has to say..are the ones that are more into bi men :)