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[ThreeInOne]

Hey all, new here, here goes...

My wife of 13 years and I have a girlfriend, and have been practicing polyfidelity. We are thinking of moving into polygyny, and my wife was wondering if it would be right or correct or moral (not sure of the term) to have sexual relations with our third. They are both VERY attracted to each other, but have refrained, as they are unsure (as am I) if this is acceptable. Yes, we all share a faith as this is why it has come up. If you need any more clarification or info, please ask. Thank you in advance.

Also, if this isnt the correct place to ask, please let me know. Thanks.

[ThreeInOne]

Hey all, new here, here goes...

My wife of 13 years and I have a girlfriend, and have been practicing polyfidelity. We are thinking of moving into polygyny, and my wife was wondering if it would be right or correct or moral (not sure of the term) to have sexual relations with our third. They are both VERY attracted to each other, but have refrained, as they are unsure (as am I) if this is acceptable. Yes, we all share a faith as this is why it has come up. If you need any more clarification or info, please ask. Thank you in advance.

Also, if this isnt the correct place to ask, please let me know. Thanks.


OK, lots of views, no replies. Perhaps I need some clarification?

My wife and I are both straight, although she has recently expressed an interest in women. Fine by me. We told this to a friend of ours, and she expressed that she had always felt the same, and was always too nervous to say something. So a new level to our relationship was born. At first, it was my wife and I, and our friend and I, but since my wife has admitted these feelings, our friend and my wife have wondered if it would be ok within our polyfidelity relationship to explore each other. There are times I am not around, and they have said that they need to release the pent up pressure.

We are all faithful to each other and only each other (and we also have a deep faith - religion you would call it), and they were wondering (as am I) if, religiously, it would be ok if they were with each other. I have done a lot of searches, and had a lot of discussions, and I can't find a single thing that says it is ok or not. Am I making any sense? Does anyone get what we are looking for? Is this the right place to ask? Is there any "right" answer?

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Baby, sex and pleasure is sex and pleasure as long as all involved is ok with it, and concenting. Religion shouldnt play a part in it, altho I know it does in many religions. Its isnt wrong to be attracted to another person of the opposite sex and if the ladies are attracted and curious, then let it happen. Could be that it might not be their cup of tea, either that or ya'll will have one hellaciously grand time..lol
What you do in your own house(hotel,ect) is up to ya'll. You're fully grown and can partake in sensual pleasures if you wish.

Just take it slow and let it happen. :}
Good luck to all of you.
Cat

[littlerayofsunshine]

Well It would probably help to get you more responses on the religious aspects if you posted which faith you practice.. We have Jehovah, Mormon, and all others here on this board....The bible states A man shall not lie with another man as he would a woman. And that in itself leads to many interpretations.

As for me.. I see no harm in it as long as everyone agrees to the terms/arrangement and are clear and open. which sounds like has happened already... As a further note I believe in God, but am not religious by any means. I feel I am bound for heaven, cause I lived hell on earth *smiles*


Wishing you luck, happiness, much love.... and delicious and fulfilling sex...

Sunshine

[ThreeInOne]

Thank you both. Very appreciated. :)

I had already made up my mind to let them know I had no problem with it, I am just concerned about the welfare of our souls.

My wife and I are followers of Christ, our beloved is Jewish.

You can see why we are wondering. Polygyny is allowed, we are unsure as to the other components and variations to poly.

[littlerayofsunshine]

Is there a jewish forum for you to post anonymously to? I am not so familiar with that faith, honestly outside of saying happy Hanukkah and a few other tidbits I am dumb.. and I know it is something you can't bring to your rabbi.


In most faith and I know this is true to your own, God is a forgiving force. Wish I could be more help.. Trust in God and his love more than just a man that preaches his word, for he is just a fallible as we are. Good luck to the three of you.

[ThreeInOne]

Is there a jewish forum for you to post anonymously to? I am not so familiar with that faith, honestly outside of saying happy Hanukkah and a few other tidbits I am dumb.. and I know it is something you can't bring to your rabbi.


In most faith and I know this is true to your own, God is a forgiving force. Wish I could be more help.. Trust in God and his love more than just a man that preaches his word, for he is just a fallible as we are. Good luck to the three of you.

Ive been chatting with my wifey as Ive been waiting for some replies. We have kind of come to the same conclusion. God is the God of love, and we love her so much, and she loves us so much, and none of us feel as if this is wrong. More than once it has been said that this feels natural. It works. Surely it can't be wrong to show someone how much you love them. Thank you again. :)

[TheBisexualProfessor]

As a Christian myself who greatly values my faith (Roman Catholic), I have to say that I believe if the three of you are open to each other, and honest, and agree upon the limitations of what you want, then you should enjoy one another to the fullest. Committed relationships don't all have to look like "one man with one woman" forever.;)

[ThreeInOne]

As a Christian myself who greatly values my faith (Roman Catholic), I have to say that I believe if the three of you are open to each other, and honest, and agree upon the limitations of what you want, then you should enjoy one another to the fullest. Committed relationships don't all have to look like "one man with one woman" forever.;)

Thank you very much for saying that. :) Appreciated!

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Pologmy means many loves, and as long as all of ya'll are open for it I say do what your heart and mind feels. And please, dont ANY of you take this the wrong way, for I dont mean any disrespect what so ever, but the rules/ advice was written a long time ago, and this is a new day and age. I dont think these same rules apply now as the world has changed, and so have enlightened minds. Dont let religions stop you from possibly experiancing a truly wondrous thing, for al of you. :}
Cat

[onewhocares]

Perhaps mine is a rather simplistic view .....if you are lucky to find someone to share your life and love and you all make each other happy and hurt no one else, then I consider you a most lucky group. How can a soul be condemned if you live your with honesty, trust and love?

Belle

[Pasadenacpl2]

As a Christian I have come to the following conclusion: The bible is remarkably silent on the topic of sex. It say very little on the subject. And yet, as Christians we spend the vast amount of our time concerned with what each other is doing sexually. It seems to me that God spoke in vast amounts on other subjects, and it would behoove us to focus on those issues, rather than the one He neglected to speak much about.

Since you are worried about your soul, allow me to remind you of this: There are only two really important rules. 1. Love the Lord thy God with all thy heart. And the second is like it and nearly as important. 2. Love thy neighbor as you would love yourself.

There. Christ himself said that these two ideas were the most important ideas in all of the faith. All else falls short of these. If you remember these two rules, the rest takes care of itself.

Also, remember that while a man laying with a man as he would a woman is considered an abomination, so is eating shellfish and wearing poly-cotton clothing. Somehow, I'm betting that you are already a walking abomination. I'm also betting that we don't understand that word as it is intended.

Pasa

[Lady_Passion]

It has always puzzled me why anyone would think for a second God would exclude anyone from his love and care based on what men say. Men interpret God's word, but we are neither God's word or God.

Every individual is responsible only for their choices. Whatever they choose remains between each individual and his/her God.

[ThreeInOne]

Thank you all for the replies. You are most kind.

We have decided to move ahead and let things happen naturally. We all love each other and are faithful to each other, so we think as long as there is love, honesty, and openness, it will be ok.

Again, thank you all for your insights and support. Be blessed and may you find love in your life.

[TulsaTriad1]

I had already made up my mind to let them know I had no problem with it, I am just concerned about the welfare of our souls.

Like Pasadenacpl2, I was also going to point to the "Jesus' favorite commandment" passage (for those of you playing the home game, it's Mark 12:28-31). It's pretty much the answer to any attempt to cloak intolerance in the garb of Christianity.

For good measure, you can point further down the page to verse 34, where it adds, "And from then on no one dared ask him any more questions."

I look at your signature and I see kin. "ThreeInOne" just about says it all. But still you add, "We are a team."

That's a pretty good place to start.

[mikey3000]

I believe that the Lord sees nothing wrong with more love!!! Never too much love!!!

Go forth and good wishes.