On the D.L. (down low) or (in the closet, long read sorry for not paragraphing).

[biblkman]

I am bi, I accepted the reality of this about 3 years ago. I am 34 and ever since I was 11 I fantasized about being with men. My first sexual encounter with a man happened when I was 22. He was openly bi but preferred men, we had oral sex twice in the 2 months I knew him, I tried anal but couldn't, it hurt too much. Anyway, I cut things off cuz I was ashamed, I wasn't comfortable with my sexuality. So I tried to pretend it didn't happen and continued living my life lying to myself and trying to shake off any sexual urges and fantasize's about men. Then 4 years ago I met my lady, we had been together for a little over a year and in that time my lady had told me that she had sex with a couple women in her past one she said she had sex with around 5 times but it was a couple years before we met and she didn't consider herself bi. So I confided in her about my sexual experience with a man, she was understanding and a bit leary as to my intentions. Well shortly after we started talking about 3sums with women and maybe a bi couple were both are bi. I was still in state of denial about my bisexuality. I got to thinkin.....what if we meet a bi couple, could I have sex with a man after close to ten years, and in front of my lady no less. So I did something stupid.....I met a bi guy online and had sex with him without my lady's knowledge. I had to see if I enjoyed being with a man, and to solidify my sexuality. I didn't want to ruin the freaky time my lady and I were suppose to have, cuz I still had my sexual hang ups. I confessed a week later we went through some turmoil but she forgave me and I haven't cheated and don't want to cheat since. Having sex with that guy helped me figure out my sexuality, (after analysis) . So here we are 3 years later I gained her trust but the sexual exploration we had wanted is still there but not as strong as it was. So I am a D.L. man know one knows but my lady and the 2 men I was with. And if my lady and I should ever split I won't tell the next lady my sexuality unless we decide to be in real relationship. I feel its no ones business, I mean honestly.....how many people expect some one to say how many people they had sex with to ease or be honest before having sex? I think the same apply's when it comes to sexuality, I wouldn't expect someone to tell me how many partners they had, if were not in a commited relationship they don't owe me that, the same for sexual identity.

[Long Duck Dong]

its really between you and your partner..... I generally do not talk that much about ex partners with my current partner unless we are talking and sharing info.....

one rule I have is that I will not compare partners as to who is better..... as each person is unique...and I apply the same rule to talking about my sexuality.... there are some times that I need to open up sooner than later..... tho I perfer that any person that is interested in pursing a relationship with me, has had time to learn I am bisexual, how I act in a relationship and how the bisexuality works in a relationship.....

I never worry about my partners ex partners.... if they choose to share, so be it, but its generally none of my concern or business unless they choose to share about their past......

I have a friend that refuses to date females that have had more than 3 partners, cos he thinks that more than 3 means they are a slut...... and I take great pleasure in reminding him that he has had 9 ex's.... and that he is hardly the worlds greatest stud.... there is plenty of rumours around town about * two pump * pat ...lol

[goldenfinger]

Your biggest mistake was to tell about your cheating here, you will never hear the end of it, but rest assured there are many more of you out there.When time is right, things will happen.

[TaylorMade]

You're not really on the down low if your woman knows, you're - - 'private'. There's plenty of stuff that goes on in relationships that everyone else doesn't know.

If you're in a future relationship... don't tell the number, just say you've done both men and women.

*Taylor*