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I’m communicating to share with you my thoughts and opinions on the Fan Club aspect of this site. If something in this communication rings true for you file it away for further consideration. If you disagree with one of my ideas or opinions that’s fine.

Dismiss it as the humble musing of a misguided person. You may want to take what rings true and disregard the rest. I am here to invite you to consider what I have to say. You decide whether you will consume it whole or spit some of it out.

In as much as I respect your choice, please offer the same courtesy to others. Constructive criticism may be directed to me privately. I will consider your critique earnestly as it merits. Thank you in advance for your critique. Enjoy the communication and may you have a good one.

Now, onto discussing thoughts and opinion about the Fan Club aspect of the site. I will first start presenting the positive aspects. Often, it is better to promote the good than merely smear the bad. Besides, I like the idea of keeping honest.

I really like some portions of the design in the site overall. The basic navigation structure appears well thought and aesthetically pleasing. Maintaining a system which establishes only a few clicks to access content is often difficult. A job well done lies in the navigation.

The ability to post blog articles is also nice. One can feel more ease expressing longer pieces than on the forums, in chat. Blogs also grant further ability to grow social links. Here too, a job well done.

Adding a more stable chat environment, with further enhancements was a good idea. It is quite nice to be able to link more readily outside of the site to pictures, videos, animations. The lack of incessant server rebooting at four in the morning is also pleasing.

Now, let us wander into a neutral area. Here I wish to not exactly spew buckets of negativity. Rather, I prefer to offer suggestions to address issues that seem problematic.

One area of concern lies in user titles. Prior to altering the site and by extension, switching to semi-paid membership option, user could customize their titles per desire. Now, the titles are chosen arbitrarily. For a site about diversity and self identification this seems quite contradictory.

Another concern lies in a lack of adequate incentive/s for paid users to continue or begin paying. Many of us have been frequenters of the site for a long time. That same group has often lamented the lacking of some key elements often found in other sites, free or for pay. Content is one thing which lacks. Another is moderation of users and content.

Limits on views of profile pictures also seems to be cutting off a nose to spite a face. I understand there are concerns over paying for bandwidth. The site having patrons in effect, ought to accordingly have ability to sustain itself. People enjoy content, and obviously knowing other people. That seems the crux of this site, a community. We see others. Limiting that is silly at best.

Summarizing, I will suggest a few thoughts more. Perhaps, some of the detracting elements illustrated could be addressed as perks for paying members. If members do pay, they expect the site to not have many adversities. No one or no thing is perfect, but when one expresses monetary gratitude for a thing or service then, expectations are evaluated.

Apologies if this communication has seemed unbalanced or unfair. I took up vigil to tempt remaining objective. It is however a bit of opinion. Thank you for reading.

[URL="http://goo.gl/72d1t"]Interesting [/URL]article regarding meritocracy and inequality. What I come away from it with is that people are fairly well stuck in place. If poor, you remain poor. The article points out ...

[QUOTE] ... the Principle of Difference, which holds that there is vast differentiation among people in their ability and that we should embrace this natural hierarchy and set ourselves the challenge of matching the hardest-working and most talented to the most difficult, important and remunerative tasks. [/QUOTE]

[QUOTE] ... eventually the inequality produced by a meritocratic system will grow large enough to subvert the mechanisms of mobility. Unequal outcomes make equal opportunity impossible. The Principle of Difference will come to overwhelm the Principle of Mobility. Those who are able to climb up the ladder will find ways to pull it up after them, or to selectively lower it down to allow their friends, allies and kin to scramble up. In other words: “Who says meritocracy says oligarchy.” [/QUOTE]

This winds up meaning those whom are able to afford education, get perks. You afford education by being smart according to the article. Though from personal experience, fail to see how being smart alone helps one survive.

In order to buy things like food, medical care, school tuition one requires money. If you have no money from the starting gate, you work. It does not matter what the work is, it provides money, that provides sustenance. By the time you work to gain food, medical care you are too tired, too beyond caring to seek education.

You work each week and watch prices for everything climb the next week. So, you have to keep earning more and more money just to survive. Never mind any thoughts of family life. That implies further need to earn more money, you have to help provide for family. Why? Because when you do not have, likely family does not either, and family looks after its own. It is an instilled value of the poor as we don't have the grand trappings money brings.

So, education finds itself taking a wallop because it costs something to attain. And once attained it can make life the more worse. To have jobs of the educated, one needs to move away. Returning home with an education marks you as a danger to the local smart folks whom are jockeyed into positions as managers, supervisors, human resources. You are politely called "over-qualified" and denied employment.

Meanwhile, while striving for money you've gained experience as unskilled labor. You have gotten to the point that local smarties consider you a good cog in the machine of production, if not a machine. You learn to do repetitive tasks with accelerated efficiency, more produced means more work, means more money. Sadly, the smarties do not follow that metric. You can produce two hundred widgets to another person's fifty and still earn the same wage.

There is no reward for more widgets produced to supply incentive. You just get more work yet remain paid the exact same. Meanwhile, those prices keep climbing ever upward. The smarties figure if they can get people like you to do the work of three for the price of one, it is a good deal. They are correct, I concur. That does not mean I agree that such a system is fair, balanced.

Ultimately, what I am left seeing is if you do not start with money you can forget ever having it. And it is becoming harder to merely survive without money. That is not saying it can not be done, only that it is harder. It also says that not everyone is born affluent as measured by currency and that is not their fault.

The model of getting one one unskilled laborer to do the work of three has existed for at least thirty years. It is getting tougher because now the model doubles that, meaning one laborer does for six. And competition for even these meager scrap jobs from the wealthy tables is exceedingly high. Watch out if you compete against family, against imported or exported labor which is cheaper.

Prices keep on climbing, education becomes something of a long ago heard of myth. Dreams die until there are no more dreamers. Why bother dreaming when cold certainty slaps you awake on a factory line? Welcome to America, land of opportunity.

Woke up this morning late... not that unusual after a night out, but a bit later than usual.. for a Sunday even, the house is unusually quiet... one kid is at her dad's the other at her best m8's.. and Kate, bless her soul is down south with work.. it's been nice, even if it is a bit grey out.. got some stuff done for tomorrow and now am feet up lazing.. no one to bother and just have meself to cater for.. kids won't b back till early evening and will have stuffed their faces... be glad to see them tho.. and Naggy tomoz when she gets home.. Christ.. imagine courses being run over a weekend? Employers have no sense of propriety whatsoever...

Asked me m8 2 come over and have lunch.. busy.. asked another m8.. out with bf.. and another.. it went on.. they all had summat goin on... sed I'd pop over me sister's.. "Don't u fucking dare, Frankie.. I'm busy".. well the tone in the voice told me what "busy" meant... *sigh* Asked mum 2 dinner.. even she turned me down.. wot sauce.. me brother is in Glasgow today visiting in-laws so its pointless even trying him... only person I've spoken to 2day was the girl in the Newsagent's... "Packet of Oddfellows and a quarter of Sour Plooms, please.." She said "Certainly" then told me how much together with the cost of me Observer, counted out me change wich didn't take much brain power.. 11p outa 4 quid.. I said "Ta, Jean, cya" and she smiled and said "Cheerio",, an' that's it for 2 day... God.. now I know wot me dad used to go on about old time Sundays when ya saw no 1 and could do bugger all.. thank God I live in 2012..

Will speak 2 Kate on line in a wile... and that will b nice.. do miss the cow when she isn't around and on me case... no doubt she will makeup for it wen she gets home... wos gud last night honest, babes.. well gud as I usually am an not bad in ways ne diff from the norm on nites out..

Well.. time 2 do a lil more.. not much left then I can just switch on 2 the footie wich will just isn't the same when I'm on me own.. isnt ne 1 I care about ne way but what I've seen so far it which isn't much seems to have been not so bad and the Spain/Italy game should be ok in a bit,.. shock the Dutch getting humped by Denmark but that's how it goes.. won't see much of the second game cos Lou and Shiv will b home and the lil chatterbox will need 2 tell me of 'er time wiv 'er dad, bathing, jammies, supper, incey wincey and sleep and her big sister and I will yap for a while 'bout our weekends... will be glad of the yapping. tee hee.. tho I wont have much to tell her about 2day...

God.. mind numbing Sunday this is...

" A false pretext"......" A small microcosm" .... Does anyone else notice the redundant expressions the highly educated we listen to on a daily basis indulge in? And don't even get me started on oxymorons.

Hey thanks for reading and always looking to make more bi friends like me. i will try to use periods the best i can. Whats on this bi guys mind tonight or this morning is why do some guys just want to play games around meeting and talking and such. I just want to find a nice decent looking guy that's wants the same as me fwb or secret bf i guess. I dont want to send all kinds of pics all night or play games if i wanted to play games id play checkers or something. . being from a small town its tough and i know there are guys out there like me going through this same thing. Guys just be real and cock pic is nice but a body pic is nice to. if u are very private then be so but give a guy something. Some guys give us a bad name with the games they play. yes we do think about sex ALOT. But our minds bounce from sex to same sex but be nice when we meet or talk is all important saying. And one more thing if or when i meet up with a guy again and goes to kiss me don't shove your toungue down my throat and think its sexy its not!!! You don't need to find out what i had for lunch gezze anyways ill continue with that story another time thanks for reading and until next time.

My ovary is the size of a grapefruit when it should be less than the size of a golf ball. It's coming out on June 6th. Doc says he is pretty sure no cancer involved, so that's one bit of good news, but everything goes to pathologist just in case. Got more pain meds so at least that's helping a bit. Off to parents tomorrow night to be stuck til Saturday, they have DSL but who knows if I will even be able to get online with the way their pc is. I'll keep in touch with Duck if I can't get on here.

Hugs and thanks for the well wishes I have recieved.



PS.. Drew? Spellcheck requires a download LOL.

I learned late this evening Lynette died.. Lynette.. Linnet.. my once lovely little bird. Once truly beautiful and so well loved yet whose self destructive urges crushed and hurt everyone with whom she came into contact. I loved her once, and she threw it and me away as nothing and moved on. My anger and bitterness back then should have taught me much, yet it was my own failings which eventually brought home to me the lesson of Linnet.

For all the pain she caused, I could never hate her..,have never hated her. However much she twisted everything she touched and poisoned every relationship she had. Man, woman, boy and girl, she collected us all, we loved her and she cast us aside as if none of us mattered, but inside of her was a scared little girl searching for paradise by stretching for the stars and finding them too hot to handle. Drink and drugs, copious quantities of sex, partying and God knows what else all took their toll and from the beautiful, sexy creature I knew and cared so much for not so many years ago was marked and obliterated by her own misadventure. No longer lovely, No longer exquisite to gaze upon.. just another wasted tragic life. One of so many in this city and elsewhere in our world.

I wrote of Lynette recently and have seen her but once since I visited her in hospital.. aged and marked by a life of sordid and tragic circumstance, much of hher own making, sucked in and drained by her own weakness, fear and selfishness, she at least had begun to make peace with the world. She certainly made her peace with me. And I am glad of that for no one should leave this world filled with contempt,hatred and loathing, even of or for themselves. I have long since forgiven Linnet pain caused to me. Her own agonies are now gone and she can harm no other.. most of all she can no longer harm herself and and suffer the conflicts which were within her... I gained but little hints, and I am the first to admit to never fully understanding her, nor do I believe did any other..but we did make our peace.. it is simply so tragic that her internal conflict was too hard to for her to bear.. she didn't want to get well, of that I am firmly convinced and no one will ever convince me otherwise..

I sometimes tell people that once I love I never quite stop.. it is as true about Lyn as of anyone in my past.. there is a little corner of my heart remains forever hers.. no one is all bad and I have never believed that Lyn was any different... so few who knew her have much good to say of her but for all the pain she gave to the world.. all that fucking grief she gave to us all.. our last two meetings showed me that she gave far more pain. agony and grief to herself than she ever did to any of us..... the Linnet is free now, and if I do not believe in God, for that little bird I truly hope to be wrong and that she finds a place where she can fly with the freedom, peace and joy she never had in this life, once again beautiful and probably for the first time happy.

*laffs* Spread those fucking wings u tart!!! It will be a change from ya bloody legs!! RIP

I will try to use periods lol try.... Anyways id like to say thanks for all who read my blogs. So great things about being bi the scenery. I was at my fav;)orite bar with my wife and enjoying some live music. And so beautiful scenery but i find myself looking at the fellas more than the ladies. I found my girl but a could around here would be kewl. Anyways so that's what's kewl about being bi it's not a problem its a fun soultion in socitey that's my thought for today not as exciting as the last 2 but not all can be so enjoy being bi and be safe until next time .....