What did your wife say when you first told her that you were bisexual? I did not tell my wife until 18 years into our marriage although she was aware from discussions a few years ago that I fantasize about having sex with men and sometimes watch gay porn. When I explained to my wife that I was " bisexual" and sometimes felt like having sex with men she replied curtly "Why would you want to have sex with another man?" She then suggested to me that perhaps I might like to go my own way to explore my sexuality. I replied that I still that found her very sexually attractive, I loved her and did not want to leave her. Later that night in bed she said that as long as it "remained a fantasy" she was ok with it. That was four weeks ago and we have not talked about it since.
I came out to my wife about 2 1\2 years into our marriage. She said she had her suspicions that i was bi, since we'd been playing around with strap-ons and various other toys for a little while at that point. at first she questioned whether i was really bi, or if i just liked the prostate stimulation that comes from anal sex, at that point I told her about some of my past experiences and she accepted that i was bi. Our first inclination was to have another bi guy for a threesome, though she was embarrassed to talk about it at first. It took about a month for her to fully warm up to the idea and get over the embarrassment. But is very turned on by the idea of it. Those plans are scrapped for now, as we've decided to try for another kid, but she is still comfortable with me finding a guy to fool around with once in a while.
At this point I can talk to her freely about my bisexuality, and we have some fun and interesting conversaions about it from time to time. We've talked about guys we'd slept with in the past, best and worst experiences with guys. I also get her opinion on guys I'm thinking about seeing. I'll show her a pic and see what she thinks about him. She trusts me not to see any other women, as long as it's only guys and i don't bring any diseases home it's ok. I feel very blessed to have a woman like her, and coming out to her feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Finally having someone so important to me that I can be myself around and talk freely to has been a godsend.
Great topic! I've been out since the end of high school/beginning of university so my wife knew going into it and was cool with it from the start. BUT... I've recently had a sort of 'second coming out' where I admitted that my sex drive has drifted further and further towards the gay side, and that my lack of sexual activity with guys was becoming harder and harder to deal with. That lead to some pretty intense conversations. We agreed that we still want to be together, and that my needs must be addressed, but we set limits on what I can and can't do for now, with further conversation coming down the road. My wife was firm that if I was truly gay and/or unhappy in our marriage that we would have to split up but thank goodness neither of those two things are true! It's kind of scary and exciting to think that I could be fulfilling all parts of my sexuality in the future. That's kind of a fancy way of saying that I hope to get fucked real soon
my wife has somewhat reluctantly accepted me .... baby steps LOL
I told my girlfriend about 3 months into our relationship. She is ok with it and has allowed me to act on my need for a man. She accepts that I am bi and has used it durring sex to increase both our excitement. She has mentioned that she would like to watch but I'm not sure if I'm ready for that yet.
Wow.. lots of similarities, I am similar to Axlton. I watched bi movies and tranny ones and occasionally we had strap on sex and recently asked if she thought I was ... and she replied yes. It kinda shocked me as I knew she wasn't just trying to be flirty etc, and I asked why she thought that and again like Axlton, she said she had a suspicion. But there won't be any extra curricular activity in this relationship..
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So I knew my wife was bi before I ever got with her but she had no idea about me. About a year and half into our marriage we were fulling around in the bed and had a vibrator out that I had been teasing her with after a little while of that she began to give me oral and picked up the toy and was teasing genitals with it. When she got close to my butt I gasped a little from the pleasure and since I had not had anyone mess with me there in several years I let her slip it inside. Now we didn't talk about it after and from there I went another year or two without saying anything to her about being bi. Until one night when she ran into an old friends of hers that she used to mess around with we decided to go hang out with her friend and the girls boy friend. We ended up drinking a little bit and started playing cards which eventually led to strip poker. The night ended with everyone naked and she got to make out with her friend a little bit. On the car ride home we were talking about it and some how got to her friends boyfriends butt and I said he had a nice ass (it was a really nice ass) and then I went on to say that we should find a bi couple to have fun with one night and that was about the end of that conversation. A few days later we were talking about it and I decided I had been closeted with her long enough so I told her we talked about quite a bit as she had suspected after our convo leaving her friends but was still shocked and a little upset that I knowing she was bi didn't come out to her sooner. I tried to explain that after keeping a secret like that for so long it wasn't an easy thing to just come out and talk about and that I was worried about what she may think of me. After more discussion and stuff we came to find this site we have been here off and on ever since. Now she has allowed me to go play with another guy which was fun but unfortunately afterwards I didn't hear from the guy. So now she is looking for friend she can have fun with and I'm looking for a friend for myself. We are still very much in love with one another and very happy together but understand that we both need/want something that the other can't give us and that's ok as long as were open with one another about what we are doing.
I didn't tell my wife until we had been married for over 10 years so obviously I was scared to death to tell her. To my surprise she was not only very cool about it but when on to explain that watching me with another man was one of her biggest fantasies. Since telling her and talking openly about bisexuality she has had several encounters with other woman and loved every one of them.
While I believe my wife always knew and that was a huge part of her attraction to me, it wasn't until eight years into our marriage that I vocalized my sexuality. It took a lot of talking and explaining. She really was afraid that I was "gay" thinking the intensity of my desires was proof. I had to explain to her that my bisexuality didn't mean I was only partly gay, or only kind of like men. It meant I was just as turned on by gay sex as I was straight sex. Of course she loves roleplaying with it, and can't let a sex session go by without trying to anally please me with toys or fingers. While that is great, it isn't the same feeling, and certainly doesn't solve the desire to give head.
She knew I gave head before we got married. Never been an issue.
I felt she should know before we really got serious because I didn't want to be either sneaking around or to suppress what I knew was my "true" sexuality. When she said "cool, I'm OK with that. I've been curious to see 2 guys" - well damn, I knew I'd found my soul mate. We're married now almost 9 years and have progressed to her giving in to her bi curiousity and sharing everything - even a guy or 6 and a couple of couples.
This was a really great idea for a group. Guys who are actually openly out and comfortable with it. My wife had seen guys blow each other and it didn't do much for her. When we discussed me having sex with another guy she made a wet spot in the bed. It took several months but then my brother in law came down for a visit without my sister. My wife ended up grabbing the camera, snapping a few pic's then pushed me over a bit so she could help. Suddenly she said, I gotta pee, keep this hard. It was a fun night with many more to follow. Fortunately for me she is bisexual also.
@welickit: Sounds lick an amazing experience. My wife and I have discussed a threesome and she gets REALLY turned on by it to. It may not happen for a while 'cause we're about to be trying for another kid. But if we can find a guy who's open to it before we start trying then it's on. Wish me luck.
